In two weeks in the US, I have been in some embarrassing
situations about forgetting to stand in lines to pay for food in the supermarkets.
To be honest, I didn’t intend to break the rules or to cut ahead in lines, but
I didn’t notice and didn’t recognize the line beside me. It may be because there
were just two or three people there and the line was not very straight. Then
the cashier politely told me to stand in lines and at that time I recognized
the line and stood at the end of the line. I am a little bit ashamed to say
about this embarrassment but standing in lines is a very good and civilized
habit that we need to learn.
Japan is admired by many people for their discipline after
the frightening disaster of earthquake and tsunami last year. We could see that
at the boundary of death and life, Japanese pupils went downstairs in lines to
avoid danger without pushing or elbowing the others because they knew that these
acts will make the situation worse. Millions of people in Vietnam admire the
Japanese so much when they knew the story from the blog of a Vietnamese Japanese
policeman at the time he helped provide relief for Japanese people. He said
that when he helped to give food to the victims, he saw a little Japanese girl
who was very cold and hungry at the end of the thousand-people queue. He put
his jacket on the little girl and gave a bag of dry provisions-his own food to
her. But he was so surprised to see that the girl put the food he gave into the food box near the person who was delivering food, and then she
returned to her place in the queue. It was the habit of standing in lines that
made a nine-year-old child know to share her food to other hungry people and
know that it would be unequal if she ate that alone.
We knew that there were a lot of deaths in Cambodia in their
Water Festival in 2010. When everybody gathered on a bridge, someone said the bridge
was very weak then many people tried to escape and they trampled upon each
other. As a result, people didn’t die of the bridge collapse, but die from
suffocation and internal injuries.
In Vietnam, we don’t have the habit of standing in lines. Generally
we know the policy of ‘first come, first served’ but we stand disorderly to
wait for the services, but some people also act impolitely. And if someone
informs the crowd that there is a mortal danger, people may create a stampede immediately.
There are some articles reminding everyone not to push each other in public but
not all people aware of that.
Standing in lines expresses our respect to other people and
the community. Standing in lines is a way to remove the idea of considering
ourselves the center of everything. It can screen and take away our selfishness
and form order and discipline.
I know it is not easy to get everyone into a new habit.
Habits must be trained from the early years of life and adults must set good
models for children. However, I will encourage at least my children, my
students to learn this habit to make a better community.